how it works

recently i had started seeing another woman (C.) shortly before S. agreed to put me in contract to her again.

It was (and is) a very tentative, date-to-date, no strings arrangement with C., who herself isn't sure what she is up to, and has been very upfront with me about that. So, after getting into a contract with S., i could have called things off with C. in good conscience, which is part of why i felt OK in asking S. for a contract when i had the opportunity.

However, i realized that S. had not forbidden me from seeing any other women. She had only specified the days on which I was not allowed to touch Her cock, as well as the "free days" that i was allowed. S. didn't specify that the free days were for masturbation only. And She is very meticulous about what She says. When She says "free" She means free. So, i realized that i could see C. again, particularly because the date we had chosen to meet up on fell on one of the free days S. has assigned to me.

However, i realized that being upfront with C. about all this would probably be good, even given our NSA arrangement as well as the fact that we are both very private about what we do/don't do with other people. i also knew that S. would want me to be upfront about it all.

So, i told C. and this is the email trail. once again, put in proper chrono order for easy reading (and anonymized to protect the guilty) :)


> From: C.
> To: h
> Sent: Sunday, May 19, 2013 8:46 AM
> Subject: Re: that beer
>
> You were going to get back to me on Friday I thought. Something up?
> -C
>

> From: h
> To: C.
> Subject: Re: that beer
> Sent: Sun, May 19, 2013 5:02:24 PM
>
> Yes, Thursday lunchtime will work.
>
> Apologies, the last couple of days have been crazy (but good). But I should have gotten back to you sooner. You can spank me when you see me next. ; )
>
> Speaking of things kinky, my situation has changed quite a bit, and in a very kinky way. It's doesn't affect getting together with you on Thursday, but wanted to let you know. Happy to share details if you'd like. Or not.
>
> Looking forward.
>
> Cheers,
>
> h
>
>

> From: C.
> To: h
> Sent: Sunday, May 19, 2013 12:41 PM
> Subject: Re: that beer
>
> Well, brightens up my day to hear back from you! Yes, definitely want to hear details (I believe in vicarious living, at least in part).
> So how long / what time / to include lunching? My only meeting on Thursday got switched to Wednesday, so my day is currently wide open.
> Looking forward,
> -C
> Sent from Yahoo! Mail on Android
>


> From: h
> To: C.
> Sent: Monday, May 20, 2013 9:50 AM
> Subject: Re: that beer
>
> Hi C,
>
> Including lunch sounds good - I very much like the connection we have outside the physical.
>
> My Thursday is not very open but I could meet up from 12 to 1:30ish.
>
> The short story is that S. now controls my cock for the next couple of weeks - a short term agreement. In general I'm not allowed to touch what is now her cock, much less masturbate or have sex, without her express permission. However, Thursday happens to be a "free" day that she gave to me - so that timing worked out incredibly well.
>
> Kinky, as I said, but there it is. I'd understand if this changes your feelings about meeting up. That's why I wanted to let you know what's up.
>
> H
>


> On May 20, 2013, at 7:56 PM, C. wrote:

> Hi,
> Picked up your email this morning, & have been looking forward to stringing together a few minutes to respond.
>
> So I'm happy about 2 out of 3 of what you say below:
> -Being free;
> -Including lunch.
>
> Not so happy about 12-1:30 (feels sort of rushed), but you've got more constraints at the moment than I (or than I've decided to have anyways) & I'm OK with it.
>
> Was trying to think yesterday of what kinky something would be a turn off, & couldn't dream it up--& you didn't either. Recall my personal situation...
>
> Can I request that you meet me at the BART station (somewhere else public is also OK)?
>
> See you Thursday,
> -C
>
>
>


> From: h
> To: C.
> Sent: Monday, May 20, 2013 8:02 PM
> Subject: Re: that beer

> Call me? 415-xxx-xxxx

> Sent from my iPhone


[note: we talked over the phone at this point and things were good]


> From: C.
> To: h
> Sent: Monday, May 20, 2013 9:05 PM
> Subject: Re: that beer

> One thing I should have said (maybe understood, but just to be clear): you also have no obligation to keep seeing me. I have short-term (albeit pleasurable)
> expectations at most.
> -C




> From: h
> To: C.
> Subject: Re: that beer
> Sent: Tue, May 21, 2013 3:59:28 PM

> understood. clarity is a beautiful thing. thank you.

> I had a brief scare last night when I messed something up, and I was worried that as a result I wouldn't be able to meet up with you on Thursday.

> the details are salacious so maybe I'll save them for when we meet up.

> See you at Stable Cafe at 12:30 on Thursday.

> : )

> H

[the "mess up" was when I had forgotten to masturbate (without cumming) one time as per the schedule S. had assigned to me]


> From: C.
> To: h
> Sent: Tuesday, May 21, 2013 8:44 PM
> Subject: Re: that beer

> 12 or 12:30 (either is ok for me)? Looking forward,
> -C


> From: h
> To: C.
> Subject: Re: that beer
> Sent: Wed, May 22, 2013 4:02:32 AM

> yes, sorry, 12:00, not 12:30. : )



[At this point we met up and hooked up. We had met up a couple times before but only hooked up once before. This time was better, for me, anyways and she seemed much happier, too. i was a little surprised that she took a bit of aggressive role with me. Nothing very harsh, but she basically whispered in my ear that i should sit down, which i did. She then pushed me back flat on the bed, and then sat down, straddling me. We then proceeded to kiss and grind and she slowly took off all my clothes, bit while bit, while she stayed full dressed. We kept kissing and grinding slowly. once she pinned one of my arms back over my head against the bed. We kissed this way for about an hour or so. We did talk a bit while making out, and i told her more details about my contract/history with S.]

[i called her the next day just to check in. it seemed to catch her little off guard, but appreciative. Then i received there was this final email exchange below]



> Hi sweetheart,
> After collecting my thoughts, I guess I'd say that I've constructed a model of you grounded in two things I appreciate and admire: that you express appreciation > often and that you have at least some skill at living in the moment (that last may be more my projection onto you, not sure yet). Anyway, a very incomplete
> model I know, but makes me believe that you're sincere in seeking connections with others (including me) but are also well able to let us go. A lot of words,
> maybe helpful for understanding how I react to you...

> If it's ok with you I'll check in with you about July 15th to find out what you've been up to and tell you where I'm at? Until then take good care,
> -C



> Hi C.,

> Thanks for such a sweet and gracious note.

> I will look forward to reconnecting in July!

> Take care,
>
> h
> xoxoxo